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Empowering Women to Live More Fully
What do you tell yourself when you mess up?
“I suck. How could I be so stupid? This is why everybody treats me the way they do.” Or maybe: “Great, there I go again, ruining things. Way to go, genius.”
But whose words are those?
Sure, they’re yours now, but where did you learn to talk to yourself that way? Is that how your caregivers talked to themselves? To you?
These pressures of perfectionism can lead to overwhelm, feeling like a failure, feeling burned out, and feeling completely worthless in response to relatively normal challenges.
Perhaps you feel as though one bad piece of feedback has the power to overwhelm all the good you’ve ever done or everything you’ve ever liked about yourself.
Or maybe you’re struggling with loneliness in your life or your experiences as a woman, needing friends but not knowing how to make them in adulthood.
Despite what those painful internal narratives are telling you, you deserve to have a sense of yourself as fundamentally okay, lovable, and acceptable exactly as you are.
You are allowed to just be human, make mistakes, own them, make repair, and still feel worthy of love and relationships.
When we compassionately explore what’s keeping you stuck in rigid ways of seeing yourself or in judgmental and harsh ways of responding to your humanness, those parts of you gradually open up.
When you’re ready, they will even become integrated into your whole self. Sometimes those harsh and critical voices are actually wounded parts of ourselves that need our compassion and understanding. Ironically, listening to the voices we try hardest to shut out can help us feel more whole and resilient.
Life is too hard already, and far too precious, to spend it hating ourselves, or even grudgingly or conditionally accepting only the most “perfect” parts of ourselves.
What if, instead, you could know yourself deeply, the good, the painful, and the meh, and just . . . be okay with what you know? What if you could feel compassion for the most painful, even the most hurtful parts of yourself? What if you connected to an enduring, resilient sense of wellbeing that could persist, no matter your circumstances?
You can get there. I can help.